Guys. Today I’m gonna drop the biggest tool you can use to hit any goal you want in life.
I mean it. Any.
While I will keep it focused on fitness, you can apply what I’m about to tell you to the rest of your life.
Are ya ready? Mind blowing moment in 3…2…1…
Your Entire Life Is A Story Your Tell Yourself
I know. Wild right?
But, if we could all convey life changing advice in 1 line, Target would be an even bigger company than it is now. #livelaughloveposters
Let’s break this down and give some action steps.
First, what do I mean by telling you that your life is a story.
While we all share the same universe with the same objective truths (object in motion, black holes exist, ripe bananas are yellow, etc…) the interactions with this universe are just stories told by our brains to make sense of it all.
Our brains love a good story. Don’t believe me? Then you stopped reading at the subject line and are playing Candy Crush right now. And ya definitely didn’t read Jordan Sparks’ “The Notebook.” Tear. Jerker.
Often though, we don’t test that story and so it becomes an objective truth like all the rest. A fact that is printed along the wall in bold arial font defining your life.
The crazy thing is, there’s been so many humans on this planet, we can often see where these stories play out.
Put love daily into your family, often you have amazing weddings and a ton of people by your bedside at the end.
Eat a ton of hot dogs, Americans will love you every July 4th.
Invade Russia in winter, lose the war you were winning really quickly.
So, with this fact that there are so many stories others have lived out there, we can often look at our own and determine if the ending of ours is where we want to be.
This invites change and change invites a story of discomfort.
Our stories don’t like change. Want proof? Turn of a movie a toddler has been watching for 30 minutes. That reaction doesn’t go away. It just gets smarter.
After all, when we want to change we are staring at a mountain that seems insurmountable. But, we know others have done it. So, we need to execute habits to change perspective of the mountain and follow their path.
As we do this, the old narrative creeps in to call you back. Telling you the old story was easier, that is was better because it lacked this discomfort.
The habits we think we need to change that perspective are things like exercise, making budgets, and brushing our teeth. But, those are secondary inputs.
The primary input is the story, and that story needs to be “this discomfort will lead to X outcome that means my story is now Y.”
Then as you practice this and it becomes the story, you’re midway to the new story. This is often where many people fail in the gym space as the story stays as a fight through discomfort.
To break through and reach your new narrative, the new habit to practice is telling yourself “I get to do this. I love it because I have X, y, and Z from it.”
Boom.
Also, if you’re mad at someone or think they are mad at you? Remember that’s a story too.
Bonus points.
So, go tell yourself the story you want your life to be. Others have done it, just listen to the actions they take and take ownership of the story you tell yourself to get there. When you do, goals just start dropping like flies.
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