Right before Boze was born, Katelyn and I started watching The Bear.
Massively popular—felt like every corner of New York had a billboard for it. We were just late to the party.
If you haven’t seen it, here’s the quick version:
Carmy (Carmen) is a world-class chef. His brother passes away, and he ends up back in Chicago running his brother’s restaurant—all while dealing with grief, family tension, and figuring out who he actually is.
The staff? A mix of family, old friends, and people his brother helped along the way. When Carmy brings in the habits that made him great, they push back hard. Ignore him. Roll their eyes.
But Carmy stays steady. And over time, things start to shift.
Details like sharp knives and clean workstations begin to matter—not just for performance, but for the people they’re serving.
Everyone starts to buy in.
Everyone… except his cousin Richie.
Richie cares deeply about people, but he fights change. He doesn’t see what everyone else is starting to understand.
That’s where Season 2, Episode “Forks” comes in.
Carmy sends Richie to train at a 3 Michelin star restaurant. The goal? Help him become the best front-of-house manager he can be.
Richie doesn’t get it. Doesn’t want it. Doesn’t think he’s capable of it.
He shows up—and gets told his job for the week is to wash forks.
That’s it.
He’s insulted. But out of respect, he does it anyway. Not well. Not to their standards. But he does it.
Day after day, he’s told it’s not good enough.
Eventually, he snaps. Asks why he’s wasting time doing something that won’t even be his job.
And that’s when it clicks.
They explain: it’s not about being the best.
It’s about the feeling you create for someone else.
A spotless fork isn’t about the fork. It’s about care. And feeling cared for? That sticks with people.
From that moment on, Richie approaches everything differently.
(If you’ve seen it—you know how good that shift is.)
Now you might be thinking…
“Kidd, you could’ve just said that. Why the whole TV recap?”
Because this shows up everywhere.
We’re all trying to improve. And we’re all being pushed to improve.
But a lot of the time, we do things without understanding why.
We just go through the motions—because a coach said so, or a doctor recommended it, or someone we trust told us to.
And because we don’t feel it yet… we resist it.
We all have Richie moments. And we’re surrounded by them too.
Your friend who thinks training is pointless? They just haven’t found meaning in it yet.
The athlete next to you refusing to drop the weight to fix their form? They haven’t had that “click” moment.
And you—the one skipping your cooldown or stretching? You haven’t experienced what consistency there can unlock.
Growth usually isn’t about doing more.
It’s about understanding more.
And that requires being open enough to learn—even when it feels small, repetitive, or pointless.
So here’s your challenge today:
- Do the one thing your coach has been asking you to work on.
- Keep showing up for the things that already give you that sense of fulfillment.
That’s where progress stacks.
And who knows—you might just have your own Richie moment.
Or help someone else have theirs.
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